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Apr 25

The Best Time for a Medicine Change

HowLongWillItLast.jpg“If you have the luxury of choosing when to make a medicine change, discuss these options with your teen. Often, you will find your best answer there.”

When is the best time for your teen to undergo a medicine change? Consider these choices and decide which one works best for your circumstances.

During the Summer

The advantage here is that you have a long stretch of time to make adjustments if things don’t go well. Over summer vacation, your teen is not dealing with the stress of school, and their grades won’t suffer if there’s a problem. If you opt for this choice, try to keep your teen in some sort of a routine. Teens can sometimes become sluggish if they have nothing to do and this can begin to feel like depression. That could make it hard to tell if it’s the medicine or just lack of stimulation. Even a minimal routine (rising and going to bed at the same time with some predictable activity throughout the day) will help your teen. Finally, your doctor may be going on a summer vacation, so try to schedule the medicine change before any departures.

During the School Year

If the medicine change cannot wait until summer, there can be some advantages to commencing during the school year. Your teen is already in a routine, which will help with dosing times, and being busy can be a good distraction from any anxiety over trying a new medicine. Some families prefer this time if they have a big vacation planned during summer and they don’t want to risk their plans.

Keep in mind that your teen may need extra support if they are in school. Let their teachers know what is going on, even if you expect things to go smoothly. Sometimes the teacher is the first to notice a change since the student is dealing with classroom stress. Also, if your teen has trouble with the medicine change, teachers are more likely to be sympathetic about late assignments if they have been included from the beginning. Don’t worry about bothering the teacher. They appreciate being able to communicate with the parents when there is a problem and not being left in the dark.

During Family Holidays

Some families feel that Thanksgiving, Christmas, or other holidays offer special advantages for a medicine change. Everybody is at home and parents do not have to contend with jobs, therefore there is plenty of support for the teen. If the holiday coincides with the end of a semester at school, this can be especially helpful because there is less pressure at the start of a new semester rather than during exam time. Keep in mind, though, that a one- or two-week break does not give much time for a medicine change, which can take weeks or (quite honestly) months. Also, many doctors do not work during holidays and if there’s a problem, you may be stuck with the on-call doctor.

If you have the luxury of choosing when to make a medicine change, discuss these options with your teen. Often, you will find your best answer there.


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Mar 25

Helping Your Teen Mature (Part I in a Series)

Dad-and-daughter-hug.jpg“It can be hard to distinguish between immaturity and symptoms of mental illness.”

Depression or other mental illness can compromise your teen’s maturity. It may slow down the maturation process, and your teen may even regress for a time. The good news is that teens are programmed to grow and mature. With opportunities to challenge themselves, your teen will recover the lost time quickly.

It can be hard to distinguish between immaturity and symptoms of mental illness. For example, a quick temper is associated with both. And everyone, from children to adults, acts less mature under stress. In time, medicine will resolve symptoms and the teen’s current maturity level will become more apparent. Scan the list below to determine your teen’s strengths and weaknesses.

Mature Behavior Immature Behavior
Accepts responsibility Blames others; makes excuses
Able to apologize Refuses to apologize
Respects others’ wishes Deliberately annoys people
Willing to try difficult tasks Unwilling to risk failure
Willing to wait Impatient
Works out of desire Expects praise
Aware of own weaknesses Defensive
Tenacious Quits; expects others to do the work
Accepts disappointment Whines or uses silent treatment
Manages money responsibly Overspends and expects more money
Able to put others first Selfish in almost every situation
Sees others’ point of view Can argue, but cannot discuss
Self-confident Lacks confidence
Asks for what he needs Expects others to know his/her needs
Empathizes with others Does not care how others feel
Sees everything in black or white Understands shades of gray
Can delay gratification Wants everything now
Understands wants vs. needs Self-indulgent

You have probably been able to find a mix of strengths and weaknesses in your teen. For now, focus on the strengths. Praise adult-like behavior and ignore childish ways. This will help them see themselves as being capable of growing and improving.

Indirect praise is potent. When your teen is present, casually mention to your spouse or other supportive person the mature thing your teen recently did. For example, let’s say you asked your seventeen-year-old to take the car in to have the brakes repaired. They did it, but not after pouting and protesting. Later, you can say to your spouse, “We don’t have to take the car in tomorrow morning after all. Lee took care of it today.” When your spouse acts impressed, provide only positive details, such as, “I said it would help us out, and now it’s done.”

This is Part I in a series. Read the others:
Getting Through to Your Irrational Teen (Part II)
Building Social Skills in the Emotionally Ill Teen (Part III)
Six Strategies for Helping Your Teen Mature (Part IV)
Five Steps to Increasing Teen Maturity (Part V)