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Oct 25

The Best Time for a Medicine Change

HowLongWillItLast.jpg“If you have the luxury of choosing when to make a medicine change, discuss these options with your teen. Often, you will find your best answer there.”

When is the best time for your teen to undergo a medicine change? Consider these choices and decide which one works best for your circumstances.

During the Summer

The advantage here is that you have a long stretch of time to make adjustments if things don’t go well. Over summer vacation, your teen is not dealing with the stress of school, and their grades won’t suffer if there’s a problem. If you opt for this choice, try to keep your teen in some sort of a routine. Teens can sometimes become sluggish if they have nothing to do and this can begin to feel like depression. That could make it hard to tell if it’s the medicine or just lack of stimulation. Even a minimal routine (rising and going to bed at the same time with some predictable activity throughout the day) will help your teen. Finally, your doctor may be going on a summer vacation, so try to schedule the medicine change before any departures.

During the School Year

If the medicine change cannot wait until summer, there can be some advantages to commencing during the school year. Your teen is already in a routine, which will help with dosing times, and being busy can be a good distraction from any anxiety over trying a new medicine. Some families prefer this time if they have a big vacation planned during summer and they don’t want to risk their plans.

Keep in mind that your teen may need extra support if they are in school. Let their teachers know what is going on, even if you expect things to go smoothly. Sometimes the teacher is the first to notice a change since the student is dealing with classroom stress. Also, if your teen has trouble with the medicine change, teachers are more likely to be sympathetic about late assignments if they have been included from the beginning. Don’t worry about bothering the teacher. They appreciate being able to communicate with the parents when there is a problem and not being left in the dark.

During Family Holidays

Some families feel that Thanksgiving, Christmas, or other holidays offer special advantages for a medicine change. Everybody is at home and parents do not have to contend with jobs, therefore there is plenty of support for the teen. If the holiday coincides with the end of a semester at school, this can be especially helpful because there is less pressure at the start of a new semester rather than during exam time. Keep in mind, though, that a one- or two-week break does not give much time for a medicine change, which can take weeks or (quite honestly) months. Also, many doctors do not work during holidays and if there’s a problem, you may be stuck with the on-call doctor.

If you have the luxury of choosing when to make a medicine change, discuss these options with your teen. Often, you will find your best answer there.


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Oct 25

Five Steps to Increasing Teen Maturity (Part V in a Series)

Teenager“Maturity is a process, not a destination. We never really get there, but the closer we come, the better we are.”

Most parents wish their teens were more mature. It makes life easier on ourselves and on them. Yet, maturity can seem so elusive. These five steps will help you and your teen to see the process of maturity in new ways.

Step #1 Reinforce Effort
When your teen does something mature, point it out. Say things like, “It was very unselfish of you to give up your bed when your cousin visited” or “Thank you for telling your brother he’ll get through math. It means more coming from you than it would if I said it.” Your words will be like fertilizer on a plant, so take every opportunity you see.

Step #2 Emphasize the Value of Mistakes
Our society makes too much of success. The fact is, most successes can be traced back to a series of failures. Think about the wonder drugs that were discovered because they didn’t work for the illness originally targeted. Failure is often our best teacher. If your teen has taken on an ambitious task, say you’re proud they tried. If they’re really upset, ask them if they wish they hadn’t tried. Even if the answer is yes, it will be half-hearted. Deep down, we treasure the things we’ve learned.

Use yourself as an example. You may be able to tell your teen about a recent time in which you learned from a mistake. People who can’t forgive themselves for errors often spend a lot of time defending themselves. Don’t worry that your teen will think less of you for slipping up. They are ready by now to understand that you are human too.

Step #3 Understand that Growth is Uncomfortable
As teens continue to take risks, make friends, try a new job, and more, they may become discouraged. A friend may let them down or a boss may dress them down. They may feel like they aren’t cut out for the goals they’ve set. Ask them to look at how far they’ve come. Maybe you both remember a time when they were scared to get out of the car for their first job interview. It would have been easier to stay at home and not take the risk, but they would have missed out on so much. Let them know that growth is uncomfortable but worth it. Maturity is a process, not a destination. We never really get there, but the closer we come, the better we are.

Step #4: Be a Model of Maturity
Look for opportunities to improve your own maturity. Many parents are inspired by their own kids to change. One mom vowed to stop gossiping after she noticed that her daughter refused to join the grapevine. A dad cursed another driver for going too slowly and thought twice after his son said, “He has an out-of-state license plate. Maybe he’s trying to figure out which way to turn.” If you scan the list of mature and immature behaviors, you might see an area in which you’d like to improve. Just remember what you preached to your teen: forgive yourself for slip-ups and move on.

Step #5: Cut Others Some Slack
We often say things without thinking. A driver cuts us off and we mutter, “That woman needs to learn how to drive.” Try following up with something like, “Well, actually, she does know how to drive, but it would have been nice if she hadn’t cut me off. I guess everybody makes mistakes.” As minor as it may sound, if you do this often enough, the effect upon your teen will be powerful. They will learn to forgive others, which will allow them to forgive  their own mistakes, reducing their defensiveness. In short, they will become more mature.

This is Part V in a series on teen maturity. Read the others:
Helping Your Teen Mature (Part I)
Getting Through to Your Irrational Teen (Part II)
Building Social Skills in the Emotionally Ill Teen (Part III)
Six Strategies for Helping Your Teen Mature (Part IV)