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Jan 25

Your Teen’s Medicine Log

Medication log“In addition to providing an important history, the medicine log can also give you insight.”

If your teen takes medicine,I highly recommend keeping a medicine log. It’s easy to forget that a particular medicine was used for four or five days and produced an unbearable side effect. Why waste time on the wrong medicine down the road? The medicine log is like gold to the next psychiatrist who treats your child. Even if your teen’s current condition proves to be a blip, it could recur in ten or twenty years. You think you will always remember the names of the medicines used, but it’s so easy to forget.

Keeping track of medicines on the computer has the advantage that you can easily print it and bring a copy to a new psychiatrist or to the hospital if your child is being admitted. But anything is better than nothing, even if it consists of nothing more than a loose-leaf sheet of paper scribbled with dates, names of medicines, and reactions to them. I actually maintain two types of logs: one is written in paragraphs and includes events and details about my teen’s condition; the other is a simple list of the facts. I keep the first log for myself and the second to hand to the doctor or hospital. I also keep a file folder into which I stuff any pertinent papers such as blood work reports or hospital discharge directions. You will be amazed at how important a seemingly useless piece of paper will be in the future. Keep everything.

In addition to providing an important history, the medicine log can also give you insight. For example, you may notice that your teen is most likely to experience a side effect eight days into a new drug trial. Or you may see that most of your teen’s hospitalizations for depression occur in the spring.


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Jan 25

Are You Blaming Yourself for Your Teen’s Problems?

Self-BlamingMom“Let’s say you have some hard evidence to prove that you’re at least partially the cause of your child’s problems. Where will that get you now?”

Was it the divorce that put your daughter over the edge? Maybe you think you worked too much or too little, or lost your temper too many mornings when your daughter couldn’t find her bus pass. As parents, we are used to having a great deal of control over what happens to our children. When serious emotional problems erupt, it can be tempting to blame ourselves.Consider the likelihood that your teen’s break would have occurred even under the most ideal circumstances.

Let’s say you have some hard evidence to prove that you’re at least partially the cause of your child’s problems. Where will that get you now? Guilt has its purpose–it alerts us to the fact that we’re doing something wrong and inspires us to change. Beyond that, it is useless. It can erode our self-confidence, keeping us locked into negative behaviors in a vicious cycle of lashing out followed by remorse. So once you think you’ve identified your “sins” (and let’s remember, we parents are human and thereby, by our nature, imperfect), try to set them aside. They will aid you no further, and there is work to be done. Don’t let guilt get in the way.

If you think it will help, you can explain your regrets to your teen. You may be surprised at how forgiving they are. You can’t do anything about the past, but the future is full of opportunities to do things differently. Put your energy there, and I think you’ll find the guilt slowly diminishes.